I read this because it was chosen by a discussion group I'm in. It's an Oprah's Book Club selection, so it's probably more geared toward women. But the author's male, so it's not blatantly feminist.
I liked how Eugenides juggled a colorful cast of characters, without dwelling on any particular character. He kept the plot moving along pretty well. There are a few annoying parts. I think he could have gone in a different direction a couple times. The ending's a bit anticlimactical. It's probably deserving of 3 1/2 but I can't quite bring myself to round up to 4.